What’s Happened
In recent months, the transgender community has faced an unfortunate wave of challenges, particularly concerning the documentation that defines their identity in society. As laws and policies shift, many transgender individuals are being told that they must secure passports with their birth gender—something that can create significant distress and fear. This upcoming change has provoked deep anxieties in a community already under immense pressure, igniting discussions about the rights, recognition, and respect that all individuals deserve.
For many in the transgender community, identity is a multifaceted and deeply personal journey. A name, a document, or a government-issued ID should affirm who they are rather than serve as a reminder of societal limitations and prejudice. However, the demand to revert to birth gender identification in essential documents undermines this journey and reinforces feelings of invalidation and fear.
A Mother’s Ache
As a mother of a 24 year old Transgender son, and ally for the LGTBTQIA community, I am completely stunned at both the new executive order and agenda that was so quick to make drastic decisions about the overall welfare of an already marginalized group.
I’ve watched first hand as my son leaned into the uncertainty and fear of becoming his true self.
The confirmation alone of his awareness that he was transgender was not sporadic, or impulsive. I can guarantee with certainty that it wasn’t because it was “trendy” or a “cool thing to do.” I know how hard this realization was because I watched him struggle within himself to actually name it, and then decide to transition and lean into his new life as a man. He was 20 years old when he made this decision, and at almost 25, he is just as certain today that his decision was 100% the best thing he could have done for himself.
With every step, there have been barriers and struggles as he worked to change every single legal document to confirm him as a male, with a male name and identity. His Birth Certificate, Social Security Card, Driver’s license and now Marriage Certificate all identify him as male. Yet his passport expired, and now he is being forced to have a passport that identifies him as Female, regardless of all the other legal documentation and hoops that he has jumped through to become Myles. So the question is “What do you think this is going to cause him when he tries to use his passport to travel?” How, in any way shape or form, is this supposed to be a better situation for our country.
I can’t explain the pain and fear I see in his eyes when he is marginalized or grouped into a label from people with no education or real understanding of what a transgender person experiences. Especially when people who are ignorant about this issue make comments about Trans Men just wanting to get into women’s bathrooms, etc. I’ve had many conversations with my son about his fear with bathrooms and it is always scary.
Transgender individuals just want to pass as their preferred gender. They just want to be left alone to live their lives as they see themselves without ridicule and fear that they are going to be beaten or humiliated in public. They are not trying to hurt anyone. They shouldn’t have to fear that they could be arrested for using the bathroom that matches their identity. It would be 100% more unsafe for Myles to use the ladies room, now that he no longer looks female. The same would be true for a trans female who would likely be severely harmed if they tried to use the men’s bathroom.
Layers of Fear and Stress
- Identity Validation: For transgender individuals, acknowledging their gender identity is often a fundamental component of their self-worth and mental health. New policies that mandate birth gender can feel like a personal attack—reinforcing the social stigma they tirelessly fight against.
- Practical Implications: The repercussions of such documentation go beyond feelings. Many rely on accurate IDs in crucial contexts—applying for jobs, seeking healthcare, or even traveling. Forced compliance to birth gender can lead to painful encounters, discrimination, and outright denial of services.
- Social Backlash: Amid these legal changes, reports of increased harassment and violence against transgender individuals are also on the rise. The societal transition may lead to an uptick in fear for their safety and well-being in public and private spaces.
- Mental Health Strain: The stress of constantly navigating a world that actively undermines their identity can exacerbate mental health issues—anxiety, depression, and feelings of isolation are real and pressing concerns within the transgender community. Just as important is the continual fight against the stigma, which often leaves individuals feeling exhausted and devalued.
Why Target a Group That Harms No One?
It’s crucial to recognize that the transgender community does not harm or ridicule the greater population; in fact, their existence enriches our diverse society. Acceptance of transgender individuals does not diminish anyone else’s rights or worth; it strengthens the very fabric of our communities. So why is this community facing increasing scrutiny and ridicule?
Often, this bias stems from a mix of misunderstanding, fear of the unknown, and deeply ingrained societal norms. Misinformation can be rampant, and fear often breeds intolerance. However, the core of human empathetic understanding is recognizing our shared humanity —that we all want to love and be loved, to be recognized for who we truly are without fear of judgment or repercussions.
A Call for Empathy and Support
As allies, we must stand in solidarity with our transgender friends and family members. Here are some ways to show that support:
Educate Yourself and Others: Understanding the realities faced by the transgender community can break down barriers of ignorance. Seek out reputable resources, and be willing to engage in difficult conversations.
Listen and Validate: Creating safe spaces where transgender individuals can share their fears and experiences without judgment can foster a sense of community. Validation is a powerful tool for healing.
Advocate for Change: Use your voice to support policies that protect transgender rights, challenge discriminatory practices, and influence societal perceptions. Engage with local advocacy groups, or donate to organizations that work to protect and uplift the transgender community.
Be an Active Ally: In your everyday life, challenge transphobic language and behavior. Show support by standing up for those being unjustly targeted.
Become Curious: If you really don’t have an opinion, or you realize you don’t know anything about the transgender population, get curious about humanity, their stories, and ask questions from a place of interest, not judgment.
The fear and stress currently permeating the transgender community is a call for empathy. We must recognize the shared responsibility to create a world where everyone—regardless of gender identity—can thrive without fear or ridicule. Together, by fostering understanding and compassion, we can build a more inclusive society that celebrates the beauty of diversity in all its forms. I honestly believe that’s what Jesus would do.
What It Means to Be Transgender in Today’s World
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